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Let’s be honest about Pete’s Monster

Front Cover onlyWhy is Pete’s Monster so personal to me.

I’m going to be totally open and honest with you in this post!

Pete’s Monster started out as a children’s storybook that I always wanted to write, and I thought that children would enjoy reading about an adorable cute monster and enjoy viewing the amusing illustrations and not forgetting that the story rhymes.

Pete’s Monster was supposed to be one book only then I would focus my attention on writing stories for the Wafflehoffer characters.

Then my neighbor’s granddaughter asked me to write a sequel to Pete’s Monster to which I thought, are you kidding?

But she told me she cared about the Blue Monster (the victim) and she wanted to know what was going to happen to him after Pete (the bully) had told the monster to go live in his older brother George’s bedroom, because Pete wanted to get rid of the monster.

That got me thinking. I made the moral of the story about bullying, or I should say not to bully. Pete had physically hurt the Blue Monster because of his fear of something being different and he didn’t know how to communicate socially with something that was different.

My daughter suggested that I make the characters come alive and have them eating and sleeping and most importantly, become friends at the end of the book. Then I had an Ah! Ah! Moment!

Pete the little boy in the story thinks of himself as being a superhero. He fights monsters and in reality he’s no different than any living breathing boy named Pete who watches superheroes on TV.

Have you ever witnessed a superhero on T.V zoom or fly over to the monster/creature and hear him say, “Excuse me monster, but can we talk this over?” No! Of course not! They don’t speak to one another. The superhero immediately attacks the monster/creature and pounds on him till he is dead!

There is no talking it through and coming up with a solution to their problem using the power of words. No! It’s all physical violence. The superhero beats up the so-called bad guy. (Or is he a creature whose misunderstood because of his/her upbringing from his caregivers?)

So this got me thinking even more. And when I think I research. Yup! That’s the way my brain works.

And this is what I found out. For years, researchers didn’t do any studies on children ages 2 ~ 5 years of age when it came to the subject of bullying. Now that has changed thank goodness because they now realize that this is a crucial age to teach children about the correct way to behave as regards learning the right social skills.

Unfortunately once a child reaches their teenage years, and they’ve been labeled a bully, there is not too much that can be done to help that child? I know that sound cold and heartless, but it’s all to do with their brain wiring. We all learn by repetition. We learned to count numbers and say our alphabet through repetition. Same goes with violent behavior. The more you do it, the more is sticks and becomes an unconscious action.

Unfortunately, these children will grow up to be violent adults and substance abusers. Their social behavior pattern is already engraved in their brain. It’s sad because that child’s frame of reference, when traumatic experiences occurred in their life, was normal, to them, especially if their caregivers are the source of their emotional and physical distress.

Often, it is only much later on in their life when they are exposed to healthier families or when raising children of their own—that they see how damaging their childhood was. Regrettably, the longer a person waits to get help, the tougher it becomes to heal.

Research has realized that if they teach children early, 2 ~ 5 years of age and that child understand correct social behavior; that child can be the one to help their peers who need guidance.

They can listen and teacher other children who need help with social skills by correcting their behavior pattern and teaching them the proper words to use and NOT what they are learning from their dysfunctional caregiver.

Pete’s Monster website has become my voice against bullying, but I need your help! I’ve written many posts on the subject of bullying with many suggestions and recommendations on how to stop bullying, but I need your help to spread the word about my site and my books!

I believe Pete’s Monster books are going to be a great asset in the classrooms because of the crucial moral. Bullying!

With your help, I would like to receive invitations from teachers and principals of Preschool and kindergarten classes so I can share the message contained within the Pete’s Monster pages.

Together we can stomp out bullying!

Why is it so personal to me?

My neighbor’s 14-year-old daughter and my oldest daughter’s friend hung herself from the curtain rail in their bathroom because she was being bullied at school. No child should ever be the victim of a bully!

No parent should ever lose a child because of bullying.

I lost my husband because of suicide and along with his death I also lost a part of myself. His death changed the way mental patients are treated in the physic ward in a mental health clinic.

It took Jack’s death to change the law in how patients are now treated for depression.

Don’t let it be your child that has to die for you to take a stand against bullying. We can all make a difference. We all have a voice, but you have to speak out and say STOP BULLYING!

Help me spread my voice so I can reach young children now before it’s too late.

Please help me spread the message about Pete’s Monster, and together we can make a difference and stop bullying!

Ask yourself if you can afford not to…

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Facts about Bullying

The National Survey of Children’s Exposure to Violence found that 20.4 percent of children ages 2 ~ 5 years old had experienced physical bullying in their lifetime and 14.6 percent had been teased (verbally bullied). To actually prevent bullying before it starts, we need to focus on how bullying behaviors develop—for those engaging in bullying

Pete’s Monster ~ My New Friend

Pete’s Monster My New Friend, is a continuation from the first book called Pete’s Monster.

In the first book, the story ends with Pete escorts the Blue Monster to live in his older brother George’s bedroom. Even though the Blue Monster had not caused Pete any harm or concern for him to be afraid of the Blue Monster. Pete wanted the Monster out from under his bed and George’s room seemed the obvious place for the Monster to stay.

It wasn’t till in the second book, Pete’s Monster ~ My New Friend, that we watch a friendship grow.

PETE's MONSTER_My New Friend COVER resizedThe Blue Monster knocks at Pete’s bedroom door one night and asks to return to sleeping under Pete’s bed. Pete is happy that the Monster wants to come back as he missed his companion, the Blue Monster. His new friend.

Pete leaves his bedroom after lights out against his Mother’s orders. He goes into the kitchen to get his new Monster friend something to eat, after the Monster tells Pete that he is hungry.

Pete’s Monster ~ My New Friend is also a rhyming storybook. It subtly and creatively covers the topic of friendship and was created to inform children at an early age that a friend can be of any size, shape or color.

The moral in the first Pete’s Monster book is that you should never lash out and hurt anyone, (bullying) because the true person who gets hurt the most could end up being you as you could be labeled as a bully at school and no one will want to be your friend.

 

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